4 Reasons Why Forgiving and Forgetting is Sometimes the Right Move

Frozen

Princess Elsa has struck a resonant chord with the hit song “Let It Go” in Disney’s Frozen. Lately, I’ve heard myself echoing that phrase with both clients and family. Why? Because sometimes it’s better to move on than to hold on to anger, fear, or regret.

4 Ways to Deal With Frustration

  1. Develop Short Term Amnesia – Throughout many traumatic ordeals in my life, I’ve had no choice, but to simply choose to forget. I discovered that if I let them percolate, I would never get up in the morning. There’s a time and place for true reflection. Other times, take a deep breath and forget about it.
  2. Pick Your Battles – Is it really worth having a “meaty” conversation with your boss about a one-time event that’s over?  Do you really want to argue with your kid about what he’s going to wear today? In short, pick important times and topics for things that matter.
  3. Ask Yourself: Is there a lesson here? – Before you move on, determine if there’s a lesson to be learned. I was speaking to a client who was frustrated at his client’s reaction to his new website. Perhaps the real issue is that expectations were managed from the get-go.
  4. Remember that Some Things Are Outside of Your Control – It’s a no-win proposition playing the “why me?” game when there are circumstances outside of your control. As I’ve said, let it go! 

Of course, I welcome your comments.

"Frozen" DVD image courtesy of Amazon.com.
7 Comments
  1. Here is an interesting observation. Although Anna is the heroine and is pure love, my grand-daughter adores Elsa. I believe the allure is imaging how powerful and freeing it would feel to just let it go and build your own ice castle. Huge lessons in this movie, be authentic and lead with your heart and you will be amazed at what you achieve.

  2. Thanks, Gail. It’s almost as if there are 2 themes here:

    1. Live your brand – be authentic, be real
    2. Stop caring what others think and be the best YOU!

  3. I’m lovin’ how this email has sparked great conversation. Thanks to all who have privately reached out to me.

  4. The timing of this could not have been better. I live in a condo and one of the owners just won a large settlement against us. The board felt very angry about the amount and the person and was having trouble ‘moving on’. I am sharing this with all and know this will help.

    Thanks

  5. so I want to thank you for your insight and recommendations in this blog because they apply to business, personal and social events in one’s life and they came at a perfect time for me to forward to six others who need an expert like you to remind them of Letting GO and “let’s roll”. Hugs to you …

  6. Forgiveness indeed is one of the most important practices we can learn. One school of thought (A Course in Miracles) uses the term, “Choose again.” In the context of forgiveness, my interpretation is that it means, instead of deciding “I can’t forgive him/her” we are free to make a different choice–to FORGIVE ANYWAY. Even if we “back slide” into an unforgiving attitude, we can always CHOOSE AGAIN.

  7. I appreciate all of the comments received both publicly and privately. It’s even become a little mantra in my life the last 2 weeks with having to not overthink not getting a project, clients, etc. We can do what we can and then we move on!

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